Can a baby/toddler be considered ugly?
Are parents of ugly children aware of their child’s unfortunate aesthetics?
Do you feel forced to lie when confronted with a baby or toddler that is ugly?
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You may recall the episode of Seinfeld, entitled “The Hampton’s”. Jerry, Elaine, George, and Kramer travel to the Hampton’s in order to visit with their friends and to meet their friend’s new baby. They all discover that the baby is ugly despite the fact that the parents think the baby is gorgeous. Various characters describe the infant as “breath taking” and “snuggly” in order to avoid their versions of the bitter truth and to dodge the constant questions and statements made by the mother that emphasize how beautiful her child is.
Most people have no difficulty in judging the aesthetics of a teenager or an adult, yet when it comes to the physical appearance of a baby or toddler people seem to either hold back on judgement.
Ever heard of the saying “All babies and brides are, by definition, beautiful”? Yes, beauty is subjective and in the eye of the beholder but I cannot agree with this statement. I’ve noticed both ugly brides and ugly babies and I don’t feel any remorse in making that statement.
I walk past a pram or a parent sitting with their child and I look over expecting to see a cute little infant but occasionally I see the opposite and I can’t help but be honest with my reaction. I will spare you all any kind of sanctimony. “What an ugly baby” I say to myself. Furthermore, all babies that I have said that about are lily white.
We like to say that physical appearances don’t matter, but the reality is that they actually do to a degree. This contradiction is evidenced in words vs actions. We tell our children that their looks don’t matter yet we spend so much time and energy on their physical appearances. From how they appear in photographs to how they are dressed and groomed.
I admire the honesty of children They freely express their approval or disapproval of another human being’s physical appearance. Adults have an opinion but society has taught to politely pretend that appearances do not matter or that one should refrain from expressing those opinions, particularly when it comes to the critique of children because it is cruel to judge a child in such a manner. It is apparently less cruel to judge a teenager or adult because they are not the innocent little human beings that infants and toddlers are.
I think it’s acceptable to call a child ugly as long as you do not describe a child as ugly in conversation to the parents. Behind their back and in discussion with anyone else is perfectly reasonable. You can always say “congratulations” or “how old is he/she?” or compliment the parents on the child’s name as a way of avoiding to have to lie about your thoughts in regards to the baby’s appearance.
There is at least one nice thing you can say about most people. You can always find a feature and compliment the child on that feature. For example, the child might have beautiful hair or lovely coloured eyes . A kind remark doesn’t take much effort and shows care and thought.
When an adult becomes a parent, its common for certain hormones kick in that remove logical and rational thought. They lead the adult to believe that all babies are super cute and adorable despite their physical state.
Quite often a person’s physical opinion of a child is affected by how they feel about the child’s parents. If they love or like the parents, it may lead to a non objective view point of their child and they may ignore or not allow their brains to register any physical short comings that are present. Same goes vice versa.
Most newborns are not what one would call good looking. They often have strange features and look like bizarre soggy and wrinkly distorted versions of a primate. However this is a very normal stage. They often grow out of this look very quickly and end up becoming super cute. However, some don’t.
I’m no fool. I know that physical features aren’t the the most important thing about a person. Ultimately, I value a person’s personality and character above anything else but I can’t deny that physical appearances do matter to an extent. Would I be pissed off in the unlikely event that I had an ugly child? YES. Would I eventually get over it? YES.
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