Is It Ever Acceptable For A Man To Hit A Woman: Most people will agree that violence is wrong. Ultimately, nobody should hit anybody. That is the ideal. Men hitting women has always been topical. The question commonly being asked today is “is it ever acceptable for a man to hit a woman?” There are many arguments for and against it, some completely discount the idea while others entertain the idea of the possibility that it is acceptable depending on the type of situation it is. Many questions come to mind….
Is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman when his life is in danger?
Is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman as a matter of self-defence to an unprovoked physical attack?
If a woman hits a man first, is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman back ?
Do women in our society have license to hit men with the expectation that they will not face retaliation?
ARGUMENTS AGAINST A MAN EVER HITTING A WOMAN
- In theory, every person has the right to defend themselves, especially when they are facing potential grievous bodily harm. But only up to a certain point.
- A man is more often than not, much stronger than a woman. This is a scientific fact, with men having 100% more grip strength on average. There is absolutely no reason for a man to hit a woman. The best thing a man can do is simply walk away. Defending yourself also doesn’t require you to hit someone else. One can block, grab, and push someone aside in order to prevent an escalation of violence.
- Being a female does not give license to hit someone and get away with it, however legal ramifications for men that are prepared to hit a woman back are not simple. There is a long track record of male abuse and violence towards women. Many countries like the US, UK, and Australia often will favour the woman in a situation of a man retaliating with a slap. Even if he has been slapped first. The best option is for the man to walk away.
- “If she can act like a man, she can be treated like a man” is a common justification for men to hit women back. This statement is severely flawed. The statement suggests that acting like a man is being automatically violent. Not all men are violent.
- It is not sexist if a woman throws a punch and the man does not throw a punch back. Throwing a punch back is not providing equal treatment like “equal pay, equal work”. Some people feel that due to feminism and women fighting for equality, it also means that women should be “manhandled”. Physical strength between genders is tipped in male favour. Men have a responsibility to keep their biological advantages in check . They need to recognise their ability to cause greater damage.
IT IS ACCEPTABLE FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMEN:
- The genders of the victim and the aggressor do not matter. Adult women are just as capable as men are of threatening, attacking, and injuring others, as men are.
- People seem to be very quick to state what a real man should do and not do, but what about what a real woman should and should not do? When a woman physically attacks a man first she has no right to become a victim.
- With notions of equality comes a price. A woman should face the exact same consequences for their actions as men do. The idea that they should receive a “free pass” from being hit due to their gender is sexist. Some women have taken the idea of men not being able to hit back as an invitation to hit men without fear of retaliation.
- Men simply cannot win in this situation. If a woman strikes a man, and he strikes back, he could be up for domestic abuse, assault or battery charges. If he simply physically restrains her, it might also be problematic because the physical restrain may cause bruising or pain that she might use against the man if she’s particularly vindictive.
- Real domestic violence (physical abuse between people in relationships) should definitely be a punishable offence. However, it is not right to create an over simplified across the board rule that men should never hit women. It feeds into an existing belief that grants women the right to hit men with little fear of serious legal, physical or social consequences.
- If a woman hits a man he must have done something wrong. If he hits her back he is abusive. By this logic a man will always be in the wrong. If he responds with the exact same level of violence he will most likely be reprimanded and shamed. He may even face criminal charges.
VIDEO EXAMPLES FOR YOU TO PONDER
During this Indian game show the female host verbally antagonised a guest before proceeding to slap him. He slapped her back and was physically confronted by a handful of men while she was virtually ignored even though she was the obvious initiator of the aggression and the violence. Was this retaliation justified?
The View’s hosts have discussed this issue in regards to a male/female brawl in a New York subway where a woman repeatedly harassed a man and decided to physically assault him which resulted in him physically assaulting her in return. Was this a fair response to her assaulting him?
“If you (as a woman) slap anybody, put your hands on anybody, you cannot be guaranteed that he’s not going to slap the shit out of you”- Whoopi Goldberg
“When I first heard you make that comment, I got nervous because I felt like it was giving license for men to attack women. I do believe men should leave but I felt a little hypocritical when I saw this. I was like ‘OK, she needed to get slapped back’ because she really attacked this man”- Rosie Perez
“When you go and slap a man, all bets are off”-Ashanti.
The comments were met with applause from the audience.
The View also discussed whether its acceptable for a man to hit a woman back after the notorious Jay Z/ Solange Knowles elevator incident.
“This is not blame the victim! No one should hit anyone. But if you make the choice as a woman, who’s 4 foot 3 and you decide to hit a guy who is six feet tall and you’re the last thing he wants to deal that day and he hits you back, you cannot be surprised. You have to teach women to not live with this idea that men have this chivalry thing still with them” Whoopi Goldberg stated.
This drew disapproval from the audience and erupted from her co-hosts who felt she was blaming the women. Her co-hosts stated that men should never ever hit women unless their lives are in danger. The public also reacted negatively to her statement. She responded via a video on Facebook to discuss what she had said in regards to the Jay Z and Solange Knowles (Beyonce’s sister) elevator incident. “If you a hit a man he has the right to hit you back. Not everyone is going to agree and I’m ok with that, but that’s how I feel. That’s why I don’t slap anybody”
This has been a topic that I’ve wanted to cover for quite some time. I have a very strong stance on this issue. It is acceptable for a man to hit a woman under certain circumstances.
The obvious ideal is that no one should hit anyone. People should do their best to avoid initiating and becoming involved in physical brawls but the reality is that they will always happen so we must work with the situation as it is. If a woman decides to enter that physical assault zone, she MUST be prepared for retaliation.
I’m completely supportive of a measure for measure policy here. So if a woman slaps a man across the face, its fair that he slaps her back. Slap for slap, not slap for beaten to a bloody pulp. I disagree with the critics who say that this is not a form of equal treatment. I believe it is a form of equal treatment, and I don’t believe that women can have it both ways. You cannot demand equality when it suits you, then play the fairer sex when it suits you. A woman cannot use her gender as a safeguard from being hit back or as an excuse to assault a man and not face retaliation.
Men are generally significantly stronger than men so there is a good chance that the slap or punch that he responds with is going to be more powerful than the slap or punch that she starts off with. That’s not to say that women aren’t capable of inflicting pain or grievous bodily harm. If a woman has it in her mind that she can go ahead and hit a man and not expect a retaliation then she should also drill into her mind that the man will most likely be physically stronger than her and that if he does strike back it will hurt her. Perhaps that is a good deterrent.
I like Whoopi Goldberg’s way of thinking here, as I often do. It’s logical and it’s actually bringing women closer to modes of equal treatment. Women do need to be taught that their gender doesn’t grant free license to assault men. They may come across a man who will retaliate. People often say that a slap back from a man depends on the situation, and that is a valid point. People have said “What if he did something really bad and she’s an innocent in the situation? Cheated on her, stole her jewellery, etc” In that case he probably does deserve a smack in the chops. But I find it hypocritical to endorse that but not endorse the situation in vice versa. Therefore, I have to say that it is acceptable for a man to hit a woman.